I Didn’t Need You to Take Care of Me After My Miscarriage, I Needed to Take Care of Myself

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A friend of mine just suffered a miscarriage. I stopped by with milk and cookies for the sole purpose of holding her hand. I told her I was sorry. I cried alongside her. And then I sat there, clenching her hand in silence for nearly an hour. Deep in the quiet, my heart wanted to […]

14 Women Share the First Time They Were Shamed as a Mother

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The moment my pregnancy test came back positive, I felt uncharacteristically ready. Joining the ranks of strong women who’d brought new life into the world had been a dream of mine. Sharing in the responsibility of raising the next generation felt significant. So when it came to learning everything I could about motherhood, I was […]

Stop Telling Me to Have a “Last-Chance Baby”

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“Can I see your ID?” the cashier asked as two bottles of Merlot made their way down the conveyor belt. “Of course!” I exclaimed with entirely too much enthusiasm. “Oh, you’re almost 40,” she remarked. As I nodded and braced myself for a pity compliment on good aging, she pointed to my kids. “How old […]

100 Perfect Things to Love About Parenthood

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Aww, parenting. When it’s good it’s so good, and when it’s bad it’s still pretty amazing. For all the itty-bitty buggy things that make our job harder than it needs to be, there are about a bazillion more to love as Mom and Dad. Let’s take a look at 100 of the absolute greatest joys […]

I’ll Never Truly Be “Done” Having Babies

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As a woman, I’ve spent as much of my fertile life trying to prevent pregnancy as I have trying to facilitate it. At 26, I gave birth to my first child. At 30, I suffered a miscarriage. At 31, I gave birth to my second child. At 35, I questioned another. At 36, I decided […]

Does Motherhood Make Us Mean?

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I once participated in a perception exercise with 19 coworkers as part of a team-building program. We were each given 19 small pieces of paper and asked to anonymously describe each fellow employee with a single adjective. The tiny papers were then collected and distributed face down to their rightful new owners. Carefully situating each […]

I’m Afraid to Start Having Babies (Again)

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Three days ago I decided I was ready for another baby. Then yesterday I changed my mind. Today I feel indifferent. And that’s only the last three days, folks. This yes-no-maybe so baby pendulum has been swinging back and forth for a couple of years now. Unless you’ve been living under a pile of laundry […]

8 Truths About Motherhood You Need to Hear

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I remember my first day out without my baby as a first-time mom. At the insistence of my girlfriend, we met up for pedicures to catch up on the happenings outside Babyville. Just then, a pregnant woman walked in. “Sucker.” I thought to myself. Sucker. I literally thought SUCKER. I’ll admit I wasn’t in the […]

Is Running Out of Time Any Reason to Have a Baby?

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So a lot has happened to make me feel, *ahem* older lately. I had a birthday. My son turned 12. I celebrated my 20-year high school reunion. And while any one of these things is enough to make you wonder whether you’ve done Oprah proud, one big question continues to nag at my consciousness: should […]

Apparently California Doesn’t Want Dads Changing Diapers

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Last week a woman gained national attention for changing her 16-month-old’s diaper on a dining table at a Chipotle restaurant. She would have used a changing table, you guys, but they didn’t have any and her burrito was getting cold. While most of us would have made the dreaded trek back to the car to […]