A friend of mine just suffered a miscarriage. I stopped by with milk and cookies for the sole purpose of holding her hand. I told her I was sorry. I cried alongside her. And then I sat there, clenching her hand in silence for nearly an hour. Deep in the quiet, my heart wanted to […]
I Didn’t Need You to Take Care of Me After My Miscarriage, I Needed to Take Care of Myself
14 Women Share the First Time They Were Shamed as a Mother
The moment my pregnancy test came back positive, I felt uncharacteristically ready. Joining the ranks of strong women who’d brought new life into the world had been a dream of mine. Sharing in the responsibility of raising the next generation felt significant. So when it came to learning everything I could about motherhood, I was […]
Stop Telling Me to Have a “Last-Chance Baby”
“Can I see your ID?” the cashier asked as two bottles of Merlot made their way down the conveyor belt. “Of course!” I exclaimed with entirely too much enthusiasm. “Oh, you’re almost 40,” she remarked. As I nodded and braced myself for a pity compliment on good aging, she pointed to my kids. “How old […]
100 Perfect Things to Love About Parenthood
I’ll Never Truly Be “Done” Having Babies
Does Motherhood Make Us Mean?
I once participated in a perception exercise with 19 coworkers as part of a team-building program. We were each given 19 small pieces of paper and asked to anonymously describe each fellow employee with a single adjective. The tiny papers were then collected and distributed face down to their rightful new owners. Carefully situating each […]
I’m Afraid to Start Having Babies (Again)
Three days ago I decided I was ready for another baby. Then yesterday I changed my mind. Today I feel indifferent. And that’s only the last three days, folks. This yes-no-maybe so baby pendulum has been swinging back and forth for a couple of years now. Unless you’ve been living under a pile of laundry […]
8 Truths About Motherhood You Need to Hear
I remember my first day out without my baby as a first-time mom. At the insistence of my girlfriend, we met up for pedicures to catch up on the happenings outside Babyville. Just then, a pregnant woman walked in. “Sucker.” I thought to myself. Sucker. I literally thought SUCKER. I’ll admit I wasn’t in the […]
Apparently California Doesn’t Want Dads Changing Diapers
Last week a woman gained national attention for changing her 16-month-old’s diaper on a dining table at a Chipotle restaurant. She would have used a changing table, you guys, but they didn’t have any and her burrito was getting cold. While most of us would have made the dreaded trek back to the car to […]