As the mother of tween, I find myself bargaining with Father Time on the regular. In my futile attempt to negotiate the amount of time I have left with my growing boy, the diminishing number of seasons, vacations, and even weekends he has left at home remain at the forefront of my mind.
My younger son trailing 5 years behind softens the blow a bit, but time has a funny way of catching up with us, doesn’t it? It passes quickly and unapologetically until all we’ve invested as parents suddenly becomes so fragile.
From where I’m standing, it seems as though the only defense we have is the strength of our connections with our kids. What once came so naturally begins to require a deliberate effort as our kids begin making their way into the world.
It seems as though when we think about finding ways to relate to our kids, we tend to think in absolutes, as if connection needs to follow some kind of formal process. I don’t think it has to be like that, because life isn’t like that.
If we stop to recount our deepest connections in love and friendship, we begin to realize that they’re nothing more than a collection of special and not-so-special moments that when combined, really amount to something beautiful and lasting.
If I’m to do anything better this year, I’m committed to making daily deliberate connections with my kids. Our moments don’t need to be grand, expensive, or worthy of fanfare – they just need to happen.
Connections big and small are what it’s all about. Take a look at 16 ways to connect with your kids because, by golly, it just feels good.