My Feelings On “Divorce is Not an Option”

I’ve talked to so many people, women mostly, who swear that “divorce is not an option” in their marriages. I usually just smile and offer the whole, “I think I know what you’re trying to say but I disagree with you nevertheless” head nod.

Personally, I believe divorce should always be an option.

I understand that no one goes into a marriage with the intention of getting divorced. Not one of us married people ever expects to spend heaping amounts of cash on lawyers, attend court hearings, co-parent, or painstakingly divide the modest empire we’ve created with our spouse. But sometimes marriages don’t work out. Sometimes two people have tried everything two people can do to salvage a relationship without success. Sometimes there’s just too much hurt and too much resentment without enough energy to go on.

Sometimes a marriage has run its course and it’s over. Sometimes divorce is the answer…[read more]