I gave birth to Boy Wonder naturally and I’m here to tell you crowning isn’t called “the ring of fire” for nothing. After my tour of delivery duty I jokingly told Big Daddy P I deserved something shiny.
Childbirth is seriously hard work but are moms deserving of a “push present” for the effort?
A “push present” or “push prize” is generally a flashy bauble given by the father to the new mother as a public display of appreciation after labor. Apparently this phenomenon is sweeping maternity wards across the nation and the jewelers (and blingy new mommies) of the world couldn’t be happier.
And to think the only push present I ever knew about was a gorgeous new baby.
What are your thoughts on push presents? Did you receive one?
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I agree that it can be a lovely gesture, but should never be expected. It makes me sick to think of how out of hand the pressure to give a huge diamond engagement ring has gotten and the wedding industry, etc. I would hate for “push presents” to become the next thing for women to compete over.
I’ll be the shallow commenter here. Yes. I slyly mentioned to my husband about the push present idea and I got one. A new laptop. Yes, the whole answer of “Your baby is present enough” is a wonderful idea and all, but come on now. Being pregnant for 9 mths and giving labor (both C section & Vaginal) is hard work. Why can’t you have something nice as a “thank you” as a “I appreciate all the throwing up, heart burn, peeing, pushing, etc you did”?
If you take the “My baby is enough” approach then you shouldn’t expect anything for Mothers Day anyway. The fact you even have kids should be present enough.
It’s like parents who reward their kids for good grades & stellar school semester. No its not required, but it certainly is nice.
LOL! High time to claim your prize Mama!
Presents are always nice–but honestly the best “present” was how my hubby, friends, and fam–took care of all of the mundane household tasks so I could just be with my daughter. Those first weeks of unhurried nursing, sleeping, snuggling were the best present.
That’s a new one on me. What about moms who’ve only had c-sections. Do they get “Cut in half to remove a human” presents?If so, the hubz owes my 3.
I have everything I need too, but like you my birthday and Christmas just matter for me. Really, a rockstar Daddy Friend is the best best gift of all in my opinion. It takes two to make a baby and it takes two (or more) to care for one!
Sounds like a beautiful family symbol, you must wear it with tremendous pride. I’d love to see it next time I see you!
Lucky Mama! I must admit, when I gave birth to Boy Wonder, Big Daddy P bought me a mommy and son figurine that is so lovely. It was a really special gesture and it meant a lot to me.
Yes. Yes. Yes. That’s one for each kid. The first one was a Tiffany bracelet with a heart charm. We had Sawyer’s name and birthdate engraved on it. The next two kids (both born at home, btw) each got their own heart charm for my bracelet. I usually only wear it when I’m going out or away, but it makes me feel like I have my kids right there with me.
I did, I got a beautiful 10 chain Tiffany & Co. heart bracelet with my first born son, and Tiffany & Co. diamond stud earrings for my second son, that were also a Christmas present. 🙂
I don’t normally, if ever ask for jewelry. However, I’ve always wanted a nice amethyst ring since both Kyle & my bdays are February. When Hunter was born the day after mine, I really wanted one. Had never really found one I liked till we had a silent auction at church. They had a gorgeous heart shaped amethyst. Beautiful dark purple set in white gold. So of course I fought for it and got it. 😉 It wasn’t so much for giving birth, but as a symbol of our little family.
I did not get bling, nor would I have wanted bling for any of our four children (two born naturally at home). I actually take off all my bling after having my babies so I don’t scratch them with it. My hubby treats me to him cooking, him cleaning, him changing diapers so I can enjoy staring into the face I’ve waited 9 mths to see.
I definitely didn’t get a Tiffany box (or any other) when my little guy was born. I will say though that flowers would probably be a beautiful touch. I imagine so at least. 😉
God golly, as if the hospital bill alone wasn’t expensive enough… No push presents here, other than the absolutely gorgeous babies I get to keep forever!
I’m not a blingy kinda gal, anyway. I think that, for my third, the most appropriate push present would be a new breast pump. My old one is about dead after being used some 600 times during my daughter’s first year 🙂
I agree that the baby was good enough for me. I wish our society would get away from the need to be materialistic at every occasion. It’s what I like about Thanksgiving. No gift necessary just people getting together. I don’t need a gift ever except for Christmas and my birthday. Even then, I have everything I need!
I kinda got one. For my next birthday after my daughter’s birth (note this was 7 months later!) I finally received the diamond earrings that I had been requesting since we had gotten married. Does that count?Do other moms deserve them? YES!!!
Never heard of push present…..I am familuar with the ring of fire tho, *ouch*…I am going to call my friend who do any day so she can tell her husband about getting her push present. I think this is a awesome idea for moms.
I’m kind of disgusted by the whole idea of push presents, and I think you hit the nail on the head – your BABY is the reward! Being in labour and delivering a baby was an awesome, empowering, life giving experience for me, and I don’t need a fancy bauble to “reward” me for that.