Wait ‘Til Your Father Gets Home

In the traditional 2 parent family, it’s probably fair to say the one parent usually does most of the disciplining and the other is…well, a bit softer.  Even when both parents share the same parenting philosophy, the execution of said philosophy is often radically different between Mom and Dad.

In our family, I always thought I was the one who did the “heavy lifting” in the ways of discipline.  I am the parent who insists on adherence to a schedule, homework on the weekends and veggies whenever possible.  Despite all that supreme parenting, it seems as though lately my words and punishments have become futile.  I have a toddler who tells me, “No Mommy, I said no!” and a school-ager who rolls his eyes at everything I say.  Whoa Nelly, who are these kids?  I’m quite sure I didn’t become their friend along the way and if consistency is my religion, what happened?  I’m finding myself grasping at straws and using the old “Wait ‘til your father gets home” cliché. 

I can’t tell if I’m more annoyed that I have to use the Daddy threats or that the Daddy threats are actually working.

So I’m the one who yells in the family (my bad) and that ever-present wrinkle on my brow tells me I’m doing it much too often.  The less I’m listened to, the louder I get and the more they tune out; I know this.  I guess that’s why all Big Daddy P has to do is give them the ultra-quiet, super-intense and totally scary, “Don’t make me mad” and the kids snap to. 

I’ve lost the Midas Touch, particularly with Little BooBoo lately.  It’s time for Mommyfriend Marshall Law, sorta like a boot camp if you will except the food is better and accommodations cozy.  Hmm, better food and cozy accommodations?  Oh no, maybe I have become their friend? 

Any pearls of wisdom regarding Marshall Law?  Share your tricks of the maternal trade here! 


  1. I am in the same shoes as you are. Unfortunately, in our household, Dad also has more weight when it comes to discplining. I, too, am a yeller and I have come to realize that it doesn’t work at all, and have tried to change my tone in communicating but to no avail. So, I do throw that famous phrase once too often – Do you want me to call daddy and tell him what you did?

  2. Haha, you’re so mean! But yeah, leave it to dad, let him be the jerk!As for me, I have nobody to pawn it off on. It was a bit nicer when I did!

  3. I am a SAHM and I have no choice but to be the disciplinarian. I always imagined that I would be but I also imagined that I’d say things like “just wait until your father gets home!” However, my husband is a complete softie and let’s the kids get away with everything. It’s probably because we have 2 daughters. I’m the one who is always the bad guy. 😦

  4. I don’t have those tricks yet! Someday I’ll be asking you advice in the area I am sure!

  5. My Mom always threatened with a ‘wait til your Father gets home’ and years later I realised when she said things like,’ Your father thinks that …’ he never even knew about it, and it was just Mom trying to give it more oomph!

  6. Hi Mommyfriend, I’ve just been catching up on all your posts. I’ve been very busy the last 3 weeks. All very well written as usual!

  7. Both of my kids react to being disciplined the same way. They both cry! I can’t help but think, “I’ll give you guys something to cry about.” The 1 year old even throws himself around the room…drama. The 3 year old has come up with the technique of trying to change the subject. Everyone tells me this is only the beginning. Apparently, it gets worst.

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