For Keeps?

The crib (sigh), two adorable baby boys have slept here.

You had a baby or two and have a lot of equipment and various contraptions to show for it.  Since you are not a Hoarder (as least I hope) and your kids are getting bigger, eventually you will need to contend with these items.  The crib and swing are just the beginning of the insurmountable “where the hell do I put this” pile. 

Getting rid of the baby stuff is a huge decision. 
Some of us would rather crawl under the baby swing in our kitchen before deciding to say goodbye forever.

Knowing you eventually need to do something with the baby stuff, you and your partner will have a frank discussion about whether or not you plan to expand your brood somewhere down the line.  You may not want another baby now or even 3 years from now, and depending on your age, you may have that kind of time on your side.  My husband and I always joke that neither of us want more kids, yet both remain steadfast on preserving our fertility just in case we end up marrying other people and want to have babies with them!  It’s our special brand of wicked humor.

So back to the stuff, the way I see it you have 1 of 3 choices to make:

1.      You decide to store it.  Since you already can’t park either car in the garage, you decide to get a storage space.  So you paid $300 for a crib and then pay $60 a month for the next 2 years to store it along with the other stuff “just in case” to the tune of $1,440.  So that crib cost you $300 new and then another $1,440 to store it, to the staggering total of $1,740!  All of that expense just because you weren’t emotionally ready to make a decision regarding your fertility.  Believe me Mommy Friend, I get it.


2.       You decide to say an emotional goodbye to your baby stuff and your future fertility.  The baby shop is closed of business.  The decision to let go of all the stuff was perhaps a tough one, but you agree to give it all away.  Yes, you agree, but not before you have found just the right new parents to become proud new owners of your certified pre-owned gear.  You consider the worthiness of the potential new parent candidates:  Will they appreciate it?  Will they treat it nice?  Are they willing to accept hand-me downs?  You can’t fool me Mommy Friend; every crib sheet holds a special memory for you.


3.       You say goodbye to the baby stuff because you have no immediate baby making plans, knowing you can buy the big stuff again later, if necessary.  In these tough economic times, it may not seem like the practical financial solution in your mind.  To that, consider this:  In option 1, you spent $1,440 just to store old baby items that have seen their share of hard times and/or use by multiple children already.  Perhaps a savvy Mommy Friend could buy what she needed with $1,440 all over again, only this time it would be new, clean and most importantly, up to the latest safety regulations.  Of course, this choice goes right out the window if you are able to store the stuff for free.  If your parents have space in their garage, God bless ‘em.  I’m thinking they’d be more than open to the proposition if it meant another possible grandbaby somewhere down the line!

“I never can say goodbye girl, no no no no no”

Aww, I nursed in this rocker.

This lamp was totally expensive and breakable but matched perfectly!

In the end, the choice remains a tough one because the implications are greater reaching than that disgusting highchair you want to bronze.  The stuff symbolizes fertility and possibility but I’m choosing to believe that in option 3 above, it doesn’t necessarily have to…now get that swing outta here while I’m away and let’s never talk of it!


  1. It was so hard to give things away! His crib converts to a full size bed. We bought it that way on purpose. And we love his bedroom furniture. It’s dark wood so that it could grow up with him. All the other things we lent to friends. I say lent because it’s gone around to several friends and we store it in our garage. Most everything has gotten its money’s worth. And it’s been so well taken care of too. I’ve kept a few of his little toys and books that I cannot part with. But, let me tell you. We finally sold the swing and a few toys at a yard sale, and I had such a hard time watching someone take them away. We don’t plan on having anymore kids, but the decision was still difficult to get rid of things or lend. My baby is growing up way too fast.

  2. Luckily for me, I’ve never had to part with any of our stuff (unless we wore it out!) since we just keep having babies! I’ll let you know what it’s like when/if we reach that point! =)

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