Girl crushes are an interesting phenomenon.
You meet a girl, or I guess I should say “a woman”, and she possesses this really amazing quality you’re immediately drawn to. I suspect that it’s a quality you wish you had in yourself. Whether she has perfect bangs like Girl’s Gone Child, unbelievable wit and presence like Sassafrass, is an ahhhmazing writer like Masala Mama, completely adorable like Complicated Mama, passionate about her cause like Accustomed Chaos, or is the mom you wish you could be, like Scary Mommy.
She’s got this “thing” and you instantly like her; scratch that, love her.
If she’s online you read her entire blog in like a 3 day marathon, breaking only to drink more coffee, wipe a few butts and throw a frozen meal in the oven. If you met her IRL you plan a girl date where you get to know her and adore her even more.
These girl crushes are never to be confused with romantic feelings; oh no. They’re just that weird thing that happens when a girl is drawn to the talents and qualities of another girl. It’s a deepish spiritual thing (even if it is totally one-sided).
I have girl crushes all the time and they come and go in accordance with the stuff I’ve got going on in my life at the time. When I was a new mom, I had a girl crush on another new mom who kept a pregnancy journal and baby journal online. She seemed to adapt to motherhood effortlessly while I didn’t. I wanted me some of that. I wished it would flow through the computer screen and anoint me with the motherhood touch. She was the mom I expected myself to become. I think more than anything, she gave me the hope that I’d someday get there. And I did.
Do you have girl crushes? And if so, what makes your girl crush so “crushable”?
(I realize this is a really weird and disjointed blog post. Hey, it happens.)