Guest Blog Spot ~ Three is the Magic Number!

I am very lucky to have amazing Mommy Friends within my personal circle of friends.  I asked my personal bestie and wind beneath my wings, Mommy Friend Gwen to write my first-ever Guest Blog Spot!  But before she do that voodoo that she do, her story deserves a proper introduction:

Mommy Friend Gwen and I met in the 7th grade and were inseparable through high school, but maybe that was because I had a car and she didn’t.  We were obnoxious and spoke in code; in other words, totally awesome.  Through boyfriends, breakups, graduations, weddings, infertility and births, we shared it all…together.

Mommy Friend Gwen is a Speech Pathologist turned Stay-At-Home-Mom to…wait for it…wait for it…triplets!  Yes, Mommy Friends, I said triplets (and I thought motherhood was challenging).  As the mom of multiples, Mommy Friend Gwen was my obvious choice as Guest Blogger, enjoy!


Hi Mommy Friends, my name is Gwen and I am truly honored to have been asked to write this Guest Blog Spot for Mommyfriend!

Because everyone wants to know, I thought I would speak to:

~The Top 10 Comments I Receive as the Mom of Triplets~

10. Wow! You have your hands full.  Better full than empty!  My journey to motherhood was long and difficult, and my children were the answer to years of disappointments, bitter tears, and fervent prayers.  Furthermore, my triplet pregnancy was extremely high-risk and very scary.  I am fully aware how blessed I am that all three of my babies were eventually able to come home with me.

One thing I can say about triplets is that there is no shortage of attention when we go out on the town.  The attention has waned quite a bit as they have gotten a little older, but when they were smaller, it was a little out of hand.  I have been to Target many times with a triplet stroller (complete with steering wheel) in front of me while pulling a shopping cart behind me.


The triplet stroller, the model was called “Triplette”, clever.
 
My second option would be to push a cart in front of me with our choo-choo wagon behind me.  You can imagine we were quite the freak show, and of course, this would invite comments from nearly everyone we came across. 


The choo-choo

9. Do you have help?  I do.  I have a supportive family that helps me often, especially during family parties where the supervision of three busy toddlers can be quite overwhelming.  I have two dear friends that come over regularly so that the babies and I can venture to the park or storytime, or even Costco with a little less tears and drama.  They have even been known to fold a load of laundry or two.  And last, but certainly not least, I have an amazing husband who doesn’t have a lazy bone in his body.  Thank God, because a lazy husband just wouldn’t cut it with triplets.  So I have lots of help, and am a happier woman for it!

8. Are they natural?  Well, first of all, amongst us Moms of Multiples, that is a no-no to say.  Aren’t all children natural?  But I know what people are asking, and heck, I would be curious too.  The answer is that mine were not, in fact, “spontaneous” (pc word).  We had a little help from fertility drugs to get our little miracles.  This question, by the way, is one of many ways that people attempt to extract this information.  Other questions include: Do multiples run in your family?  Did you do IVF?  Was there something wrong with your ovaries?  For reals!  In the beginning I would get all red and flustered at these uncomfortable questions from random strangers.  In my previous life, I would only have considered discussing the conception of my children with my besties.  Now in my new life, it’s par for the course.  I can handle these questions like a pro.

7. Wow, you are Supermom!  This is one of my favorite comments.  Thanks, I think I am pretty super.  This is hard stuff and I’ll take a pat on the back once in a while!

6. So I guess you’re done then?  Yet another semi-personal question that may have elicited a blush from shy little me in the days of old.  The honest answer is probably.  We have three beautiful, healthy kids; a boy and two lovely daughters.  I feel like we are a nice-sized family, but then again, I am not super-old yet so I think it’s a bit premature to say anything definitively.

5. I’d shoot myself! Can you believe people would actually say this one? They do!

4. Do you watch Jon and Kate Plus 8When they were little, I got this comment daily.  And for a little while, Octomom was hot on everyone’s brains and I got a lot of those comments too.  Gotta love the constant comparison to Kate Gosselin and Nadya Suleman!  But if it’s not famous Moms of Multiples they want to talk about, it might be their brother’s girlfriend’s second cousin, who has quads.   3. Did you know you were having triplets?  This question throws me sometimes, because I’m not sure what info people are trying to ascertain.  Are they trying to figure out if I attempted to conceive three at once?  The answer to that is no.  We were aware of the risk of multiples with fertility drugs, but statistically, the chances of higher order multiples are very small.  All we were hoping for originally, was one healthy baby.  The other possibility is that they are wondering if on delivery day the doctor was like, “Wait a minute, it looks like there’s another head!”  As a woman in the USA who sought prenatal care, I was definitely aware of the fact that I was carrying three.  And if the first ultrasound hadn’t picked up on it, we might have figured it out when I got to be the size of a small house!
  
2. Is it getting easier, now that they are a little older?  Yes, yes, yes!!! The terrible twos have challenged my patience and my sanity, but in my opinion, nothing could be as hard as those infant days.  Three babies on a 3 hour schedule = not a lot of free time!  And the bottom line is, we are not designed with enough arms to adequately rock and cuddle three newborns.  We had lots of crying fits (from them and me) when I just couldn’t accommodate everyone’s needs.

1. You are so blessed. AMEN!!!!!!!!

All right Mommy Friends, you got the unabridged answers to those questions, whereas the strangers in the store get one-word answers or a polite smile with a nod.  I have to say, in my personal experience, most people have been very nice. Even if there is a nosy question, there is almost always something nice to say about my kids and at least daily, someone gives me recognition for the job I am doing.

Now that they are a little older, minus the triplet stroller and the choo-choo, the comments have slowed down a lot.  Sometimes I kind of miss the attention and nowadays, I have to rely on props from my family for a job well done.  In fact, just this morning my daughter told me her omelet was “kinda good”.

Comments

  1. Oh, color me jealous, when we did ivf, I rushed out and bought a minivan in anticipation of my brood to be, sadly it was not to be, and we adopted second time around … but I love all the baby stories.
    And have many comments of our own that you would really just look at people amazed at what came out of their mouths!
    They are all gorgeous, lovely to see you here at the delightful Mommyfriend and you get to know her IRL – lucky you 🙂

    • The triplets are truly a miracle, the sweetest children EVER! I’m so glad your story had a happy ending Mama, I enjoy reading about the adventures of your beautiful family.

  2. Gorgeous family, and well written, Gwen. Coming from a 6-time IVF survivor, and mom to 2.5 year old twins, that’s just stinkin’ awesome. I was always open about my infertility adventures, but when push came to shove, I’ve been known to reply with the occasional sarcastic remark… especially to the ‘geez, at least it wasn’t triplets’ remark (my pregnancy started off that way… :)) Kudos to you for all that you do, and the best pat on the back is indeed the one we get for making that ‘kinda awesome’ omelette. Kira, one of my little ones, just told me that ‘my hair is shiny’ yesterday. Works for me! xoxo

  3. When I was pregnant with my twins, someone actually said to me “Wow, if that were me, I’d get an abortion.” Seriously. And when people asked me they were “natural” I always wanted to say “You mean as opposed to your demon spawn?” Or to ask them “Do you get frequent yeast infections?” NONE of their business. And weird.
    Your three are GORGEOUS. you are, indeed, blessed!

  4. LOVE IT! I can’t imagine having triplets. I have a good friend with triplets (two identical, one fraternal) and those first two years were the absolute craziest of his life!!!

  5. Awesome blog, just like the awesome mom you are!

  6. Gwen,
    You are a very positive person! Your children are beautiful! it was great to read this post!!!

  7. Ditto Sascha, you do rock. Because I sure wouldn’t be able to do it. 😉 I loved helping you guys out when I could, but boy if I had to do it by myself on a daily basis… yes, I’m gonna say it, I’d probably shoot myself. lol…but with a water pistol…that maybe had some margaritas in it.

  8. I’m so happy for you Gwen. I remember going to breakfast with you, Lori and Kate, right before you knew if you were expecting. I think you said something like, “who knows I could be pregnant right now”. I remember driving home with my two beautiful(babies at the time) thinking about how much I hoped that for you! You have a beautiful family!

  9. Gwen you Rock!!! You are super mom and your kiddos are so lucky to have you and Zack as their parents. This auntie does have to say that I love those three little ones so much. Great blog:-)

  10. Great guest blogger Lori! Thanks Gwen for sharing!!!

  11. Congrats Jenny! I’ll never forget that day. Actually, the pic of that day is above 🙂 My wife and I highly recommend you join both Triplet Connection and MOST. TC’s message board was invaluable to us and answered so many of our questions. Also, if there is anything Gwen or I can answer for you, please feel free to shoot us a message.
    Best,

    Zack

  12. Your Mommy Friend Lori says:

    Congratulations Jenny, three times the joy!  Wishing you much happiness and continued blessings!

  13. Wow. My husband and I just found out this week that we’re expecting triplets, and I haven’t felt much other than shock and fear. This has certainly helped calm me a bit. Congratulations on your beautiful trio!

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