A surprise? I think not.
It’s funny how pregnant women seem to make people happy. Folks you would never have a reason to talk to suddenly show an interest in you and your all-important job of creating a life. What was even more interesting to me when I was pregnant was how certain even strangers were of the sex of my baby. I’d had dreams convincing enough for me to believe I was having a girl only to go on and dream I was having a boy the very next night. For that reason, anyone’s best guess was a good as my own. I didn’t have a “feeling” regarding the sex either way, despite the fact that people were certain I did (or at least I should). Maybe I wasn’t in touch with my female intuition or mothering instinct, both of which were supposed to know all the answers.
Perhaps most puzzling to a mom like me were those parents who didn’t want to know the sex of their baby because they “didn’t want to ruin the surprise”.
In my always humble opinion, there are enough surprises in pregnancy. I mean, finding out you were pregnant in the first place was a surprise, right? And finding out the sex at your ultrasound appointment is also a surprise, right? An added bonus to finding out the sex of your peanut early is your ability to relieve yourself from having to choose a boy name AND a girl name. Further, once you know, your baby will be fashionably prepared to greet the world in adorable gender-appropriate clothing. Your baby will never be forced to wear the ambiguous yellow/green ensembles, because you, dear parent did your homework. But for all of you who believe finding out the sex of your baby on his/her birthday is the “ultimate surprise”, good for you but just know, your ultimate surprises are just beginning!
As a footnote, I know 6, yes 6 pregnant ladies right now and 4 of the 6 are going the ultimate surprise route!
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January 4, 2010 7 Comments
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I always HAD to know with each of my 4 pregnancies. We always said, “They are a member of our family, not a “surprise.” But I also realize that to each his own, right?We had to know with the third and fourth for logistical reasons as well. We have a 3 bedroom home and had to figure out where the HECK this baby would sleep. Consequently, it didnt matter with our youngest because he (at 9 months old) sleeps in a pack & play in our room (much to my husband’s chagrin!)By the way…I officially hate you now that I see how fabulous you looked pregnant. Just kiddin! I’ll always love you, Mommy Friend!!
Thank you Cate! Of course I remember you:) oh and it was A GIRL!! 🙂
i’m agree, it’s necessary to find out the child’s sex, to be ready for him. but it can also bring disappointment. My sister wanted to give birth to a baby boy very much, but gave birth to a girl. She was upset beforehand when she found out(
Congratulations Irene! I know I haven’t seen you in forever and don’t know if you even remember me – but I’m still super excited for you!
Well I am one of the 4 you speak of (hee hee) AND I am a first time mommy so I’m hoping it gives me something to focus on during delivery. I know, I know don’t even say it! A girl can dream!!! Second, at my age, finding out the sex is the very least of my worries and lastly, I equate the moment the doctor says “It’s a (fill in the blank)” as the same moment my husband and I seeing each other for the first time when I walked down the aisle. Yes, I know it’s all memorable no matter what, but I feel finding out in advance just like taking pictures on your wedding day first as to catch all the natural light as ruining the moment?? I’m just saying…BTW, I LOVE your site Lori! Congratulations!
Last night I was talking to my friend who, with her oldest, found out the sex and respected her husband’s wishes to keep it from him. She knew it was a girl for months and months and never let it slip. She even had 3 baby shower’s worth of baby girl clothes and kept them hidden from him until the birth day!!!