6 Reasons I Don’t Wear My Wedding Ring

shutterstock_177166469“Where’s your wedding ring?” my girlfriend asked as we compared thrashed mom-icures, “Don’t tell me you lost it!”

“I didn’t lose it, I just never wear it,” I explained, “I guess I just don’t care about it that much.”

“Don’t care about it that much? That’s your wedding ring! It’s sacred! I never take mine off. Never ever. I won’t even take it off to shower. Don’t you want people to know you’re married? How does your husband feel about it?”

Oh. Wow. So much passion! So many questions! Who knew my naked (albeit still married) ring finger could evoke such a powerful reaction?

When it comes to my digitus quartus, there are six reasons I rarely, if ever, wear my wedding ring.

I’m Afraid to Start Having Babies (Again)

IMG_7801Three days ago I decided I was ready for another baby. Then yesterday I changed my mind. Today I feel indifferent. And that’s only the last three days, folks. This yes-no-maybe so baby pendulum has been swinging back and forth for a couple of years now.

Unless you’ve been living under a pile of laundry (hey, it happens), you’ve read Babble blogger Chaunie Brusie’s viral post about how she’s afraid to stop having babies. I felt that way once upon a time, too. Back when I was younger. Back before two miscarriages. Back when growing our family was just one of the many ways my husband and I were growing in our marriage, growing in our careers, and growing in our wants and desires.

But it didn’t take long before we were all grown up and all grown out with two young kids and two merciless careers that didn’t allow us much time to enjoy our growing family. “No more babies,” we’d whisper in passing as we took turns caring for a hard-partying infant or fevering toddler at 2am.

“But you just have to try for a daughter!” people would tell us. Try for a daughter? We could hardly manage the children we had. At a time when our kids were the first ones to be dropped off at daycare and the last ones to be picked up, we wondered how we would ever manage a third, no matter how desperately we wanted to. But we couldn’t help but think someday. Someday when life calmed down a little. Someday when our kids were a bit older. Someday when I was finally able to leave my job — then we’d have another baby.

And then one day that someday arrived. When I left my job to focus on our family, things became a whole lot simpler. And we loved it. We’re still loving it nearly three years later. And perhaps we’re loving it a little too much, because even though now is the perfect time for our someday baby, something unexpected is standing in our way.

6 Ways I Want to Parent More Like a Grandparent


As a parenting blogger, I spend a lot of time thinking — really thinking — about parenting. Am I doing it right? Do I like what I see through my children’s mirror eyes? Sometimes the answer is “yes” and I pat myself on the back. Other times the answer is “not so much.” It’s those times […]

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My Husband and I Went on Three Dates in Three Days


It’s not often my husband and I get a break from the kids. In our tenure as parents, we’ve hired a babysitter a grand total of one time, reserving the balance of our limited childfree adventures for family members. So when my parents offered to take the kids for three nights over their holiday break, […]

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6 Rules for Tween Moviegoing Without Mom and Dad


As much as I’d like to believe that my 11-year-old is still a little boy, he’s growing up. He’s eager to take on new responsibilities and venture out on his own with his friends, so I’m tasked with learning how to let go while fostering his independence in age-appropriate ways. When my son asked if […]

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Should Tweens See Rated-R Movies?


Parenting a tween is tricky business. We want to recognize our tween’s growing independence, but deciding where to draw the age-appropriate line can prove muddy at best. When it comes to movies, I’ve developed a list of 5 rules for tweenage viewing that are working surprising well within our family – take a look!  

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8 Movies from My Childhood I Want to Share with My Kids


One of the greatest joys of parenting involves strolling down memory lane and taking my kids along for the ride. Introducing them to the people, places, and movies that defined my childhood is more than just great family fun; it’s an experience to remember. With the weather cooling down and more time spent snuggling up […]

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How to Make Frenemies and Alienate Parents: The Christmas Edition


They say it’s better to give than it is to receive, and I’m pretty sure the “they” who said that were parents. They were parents who were tired of their children receiving toys without volume controls. Parents who were frustrated by toys that swallowed entire family rooms whole. And parents who wondered how a single […]

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10 Holiday Gifts as Special as the Kids Who Receive Them


{Thanks to UncommonGoods for sponsoring this post.} One of my favorite parts of the holiday season is the feeling I get when I nab the perfect gift. I can’t wait to wrap it. I can’t wait to give it. And I can’t wait for the reaction the gift receives. Will they love it? Will they […]

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This Note from My Son’s Teacher Went Too Far

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I’m a responsible parent. I’m a tough disciplinarian. I don’t lie on reading logs. My kids get flu shots and their bedtimes are carved in stone. But in spite of all that Type-A parenting, I’m still human. I make mistakes and forget things once and a while, and recently I forgot to sign my second-grader’s homework. […]

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