The Practical Parent’s Guide to Surviving Tween Attitude

shutterstock_58824412Once upon a time I had a loving son. He was sweet. He smiled a lot. He looked at me with eyes so full of love and adoration that I couldn’t help but fall to pieces. We were a team. We were magic. And then he turned 10.

It didn’t happen overnight, but my buddy, my son who loved me best of all, began to change. Before I knew it, I wasn’t the smartest person in his life anymore. I wasn’t the prettiest, the funniest, or the person he most wanted to spend time with. I was just Mom — that annoying woman who expected way too much. And it stung.

But the sting was more than just heartbreak; it was disappointment in the person he was choosing to become. He was impatient, too smart for his own good, and often downright rude. And I took it personally. I took it personally for a very long time even though parenting experts and friends told me not to. I cried about it, wrote about it, punished him for it, and not-so-secretly hoped one day the abominable attitude would just somehow go away. And I had every reason to believe it would. My son was a good boy, exhibiting moments of character greatness that shone in all the right ways, until bad attitude crept back in to stir up trouble the moment he’d let his guard down.

“Honey, they all go through it,” an older and wiser mom declared, “You’ll get through this. You both will. For now, all you need to do is survive.” Survive. Huh. [read more...]

Is Running Out of Time Any Reason to Have a Baby?

shutterstock_115924825So a lot has happened to make me feel, *ahem* older lately. I had a birthday. My son turned 12. I celebrated my 20-year high school reunion. And while any one of these things is enough to make you wonder whether you’ve done Oprah proud, one big question continues to nag at my consciousness: should I have another baby?

This mental tug-of-war has been going on for a while now. First there was the year when “No more babies!” was replaced by “Well, maybe one more baby,” followed by the year of, “Should we really? Could we really?” which ultimately led to last year’s pregnancy loss and general mistrust of the universe.

October 4th marked the one-year anniversary of my miscarriage and I’m sorry to say that I’m no closer to reaching resolution on the “maybe baby” front than I was three years ago. In fact, I’m probably further away than ever. And it’s cruel, ya know? The inevitable expiration of my fertility. And that’s what I’m struggling with. I’m 38 years old dealing with some female issues and my eggs are getting tired. I’m getting tired. But despite these unyielding truths, I can’t quite shake the suspicion that I’m not done having kids. [read more...]

No, I Don’t Want My Son to Befriend His Bully

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It all started last year when BooBoo brought a rubber ball to school to play with at recess. After playing with it for a few minutes, a kid named Trevor confiscated it for his own amusement. Words were spoken, a struggle was had, and tears were shed. Trevor was swiftly reprimanded for his actions and first […]

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6 Spooktacular Ways to Celebrate Halloween as a Family

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Think Halloween is just for kids? Think again! Now, I know when we think of traditional family holidays, the usual suspects come to mind, but for many families Halloween holds a special (and spooky) place in our hearts. As the unofficial kickoff of the holiday season, Halloween offers all the spirited magic, yummy treats, and […]

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In Defense of Older Trick-or-Treaters

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“If you don’t tell me what you want to be for Halloween, you won’t get to go trick-or-treating.” I told Boy Wonder for the hundredth time. “I’m too old for that.” he said. “People don’t like giving candy to older kids. Last year they kinda made me feel bad about it.” “What? Who? How? Was […]

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Apparently California Doesn’t Want Dads Changing Diapers

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Last week a woman gained national attention for changing her 16-month-old’s diaper on a dining table at a Chipotle restaurant. She would have used a changing table, you guys, but they didn’t have any and her burrito was getting cold. While most of us would have made the dreaded trek back to the car to […]

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5 Ways to Recapture the Magic of Childhood with Your Tween

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“Mom, you can get rid of all that stuff.” Boy Wonder said as he pointed to a giant box of toys he’d spent years collecting. “Are you sure?” I asked. “Yeah, that stuff’s for kids.” And just like that, my tween closed the door on his childhood without so much as a nostalgic look back. […]

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My 6-Year-Old’s Guide to Proper Parenting

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For all the things your parents were throughout your childhood — kind, supportive, loving — they were also wildly unfair when it came to things like discipline. There were rules. So. Many. Rules. And they were unnecessary! I mean, what did you need all those rules for? You were a good kid. All you wanted to […]

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Fellow L.A. Parents, Why the Heck Aren’t You Vaccinating Your Kids?

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Parenting is full of tough choices, but some choices are pretty easy: we always use seat belts, we insist on a helmet, and we vaccinate our kids. Unless, of course, we live on the westside of Los Angeles County, where vaccinating doesn’t make “instinctive” sense. Wait, what? Apparently, parents within L.A.’s wealthiest communities have a big […]

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10 Myths About Moms Raising Sons – Busted

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As the mom of two boys, I’d like to think I know at least a little something about raising sons. Experience has taught me that boys are wild and wonderful, loud and daring — and guess what — also tender, and thoughtful. There was a time when the very notion of raising a son (let […]

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